I wish I had known -- That being in love is not an adequate foundation for building a successful marriage -- That romantic love has two stages -- That the saying : "like mother, like daughter" and "like father, like son" is not a myth -- How to solve disagreements without arguing -- That apologizing is a sign of strength -- That forgiveness is not a feeling -- That toilets are not self-cleaning -- That we needed a plan for handling our money -- That mutual sexual fulfillment is not automatic -- That I was marrying into a family -- That spirituality is not to be equated with "going to church." -- That personality profoundly influences behavior