Can love & respect work when parenting your kids? -- The family crazy cycle. If kids would only cooperate, we all would be great parents! ; Stopping the Family crazy cycle, part I : decode -- Stopping the family crazy cycle, part II : defuse -- The family energizing cycle. Give : not too little, not too much ; Understand : put yourself in their shoes ; Instruct : not too much-- but just enough "stuff like-that" ; Discipline : confront-- correct-- comfort-- ; Encourage : equip them to succeed and not lose heart ; Supplicate : pray-- with confidence that God listens to us and speaks to them ; Teamwork : how to put your children first ; Parenting pink and blue -- The family rewarded cycle. The real reason to parent God's way ; Because He loves us, no matter what-- we love them-- no matter what ; Beware of the "outcomes trap" ; My response is my responsibility -- What kind of legacy will you leave? -- Appendix A. Love & respect goals for our family -- Appendix B. Checklists for practicing love & respect in your parenting