Introduction -- Enhancing sexual awareness : getting started -- Re-awakening your sexuality : non-genital pleasuring -- Whole body touch : genital pleasuring -- Self-exploration and masturbation -- Non-demand pleasuring : the key to sexual intimacy -- Developing your couple sexual style -- Bridges to sexual desire -- Erotic scenarios and techniques -- Pleasuring, eroticism, and intercourse -- Sexuality and aging -- Your sexual voice -- Couple sexual desire -- Female pleasure and eroticism -- Female sexuality : becoming orgasmic -- Dealing with female sexual pain -- Arousal and erection -- Learning ejaculatory control -- Confronting ejaculatory inhibition -- Preventing relapse : maintaining resilient couple sexuality -- Appendix A: Choosing a couple or sex therapist -- Appendix B: Resources : books, videos, and trusted websites