Part 1. Getting clear-eyed about who you are: Falling into each other's arms ; Following the tracks of love ; Digging under the surface ; A note from Lisa ; Seeing your own trauma ; A note from Becky ; Looking at your operating system -- Part 2. Disrupting divisive patterns and changing the atmosphere: Creating safety when feeling threatened ; Quieting the whisper of shame ; A note from Lisa ; Laying down your weapons ; A note from Becky ; Leaving no room for feeling "left" ; Jumping from the merry-go-round -- Part 3. Generating goodness between you and beyond you: Reconnecting, repairing, restoring ; Walking through fire together ; Choosing each other through play ; A note from Lisa ; Blessing, not cursing ; A note from Becky ; Coming to the banquet of delight

"Marriage is designed to be a glorious, transformative, joyous union of two imperfect people seeking profound love, empathy, and connection. Yet today's world is rife with marriages that are barely hanging on, with one or both spouses quietly checked out, desperate for a different experience. In this deeply personal and richly insightful book, Dr. Dan Allender and Dr. Steve Call, along with their spouses, winsomely point the way toward healing and intimacy. Sharing authentically about the past traumatic events they carried into their own marriages--from abuse and neglect to toxic shame and abandonment--they offer hard-earned wisdom that will strengthen any marriage, whatever its condition"--