"Love is supposedly attainable for us all. But for most people, especially women, success with "love"--the yardstick we use to measure our value across romance, parenthood, sex, religion, and friendship--can feel out of reach, an experience frequently ascribed to a personal failing. This sense of unworthiness is, according to Shon Faye, "a form of exile: an intentional, punitive banishment that serves political ends." Faye, a trans woman in her thirties, has felt isolated from love for as long as she can remember. So after the devastation of her first heartbreak, she figured it was time to find out why."--